Seeing the truth about bargirls

[Pailin]

if there are no givers then there are no takers......

Actually, isn't it... if there are no givers, then people go out and kidnap them or buy them from their parents so that there will be sufficient supply for the takers?

[hugh023]

There is good and bad in all races, cultures and religions. You can only hope that your own life experiences enable you to make the appropriate decisions in your lifes journey. We all make mistakes sometimes but it is our mistakes as well as our joys that make us who we are

I have been living with a lovely Thai lady (and her family) for the last 3 years. I met her at a bar in Chiangmai, however she worked behind the bar and I didn't sleep with her until I returned to Thailand to see her again 6 months later (I did however sleep with 3 of the other girls from that bar though, all of which were good friends of Wan).

I never gave her any money either, although I do my bit to support her and her immediate family now we are living together.

I guess I'm one of the lucky ones.

BTW I really enjoyed reading this thread.

Regards, Hugh

[FaranginPhetch]

however she worked behind the bar and I didn't sleep with her until I returned to Thailand to see her again 6 months later (I did however sleep with 3 of the other girls from that bar though, all of which were good friends of Wan).

Well, You sure were cutting a pretty wide swath wern't you??

[Stephen Cleary]

Geez, i didn't even spot this thread. I haven't been here on this forum for ages.

We were just discussing on 'getting info through google' on the 'Women in Thailand' thread. There are hundreds of thousands of stories on the Internet and especially at stickmanbangkok who advise one NOT to send monthly payments to a girl you just met in a bar.

Thais think we must be mad to send the likes of 28,000 baht a month to a bargirl and i agree with them.

So many foreigners just dont listen to such advice and again its a classic case of 'But my one is different'

Long live the Thai rural economy!

[FaranginPhetch]

OK Steve, but I have had that discussion with my wife who has a couple of cousins that have huge fat Brit boy friends that bought new cars pay as much as 20k a month plus the car payments.
And she thinks that it is perfectly OK and that they should be paying it as the girls have to live.
But they are down in town at the local disco and buying drinks for the young Thai studs every nite too, so I just don't know about it, and why the fat dudes would be paying so much when they could come and have a nice time a couple of times a year and only spend in a month what the maintenance is per month now. and be able to save the other 10 months money in a bank.

Maybe the Brits believe the girls when they tell them that "I have the only one of these things in the world, no other woman has one, and if you don't pay me, I will have to go with someone else",,what ya think??

[Khun Don]

I heard from my plumber friend yesterday concerning the subject of this thread-see my first post. Evidently the guy is not convinced at all by this thread. As predicted by some posters, he thinks "his" girl is different, and anyone else who thinks otherwise is just jealous and/or does not understand.
"You can lead a horse to water, but you can not make it drink"
Mai pen Rai.

[FaranginPhetch]

Well if it is two Texans leading him, they sure can do it..

But anyhow, I sure am glad she is "Different" but then I always thought she was/ would be.

[hugh023]

Well, You sure were cutting a pretty wide swath wern't you??

Hmmm! I was trying to get the bad taste of my previous Thai girlfriend out of my mouth. Not a bar girl at all but had all of the bad aspects and very few of the good, that you could expect from a bar girl.

She was to have come with me to Chiangmai but on finding that my wallet was not as thick as she liked, she left me sitting in a Bangkok movie theatre when she went to the 'ladies' and never returned.

If anyone wants a read about that, on my web-site there is a section called 'Love on the net' and Chananya was the 2nd installment.

Hugh

[FaranginPhetch]

So anyway Hugh, you are not the only one that that has happen to, but even then some will not admit that is what happen.

[hugh023]

So anyway Hugh, you are not the only one that that has happen to, but even then some will not admit that is what happen.

Hey, we all make mistakes and I have no trouble admitting to mine. However, some mistakes are far more enjoyable than others.

Joy and pain are part of all relationships, without one you cannot experience the other. Although I was hurt by the way she left me I now only remember the good times we had and there were some very good times.

It cost me a fair amount to find out but this is really what this thread is about.

As far as I can tell, everybody has to make their own mistakes.

In our village a European guy has come to stay with a bar-girl from Chaingmai he has been with before.

His girlfriend has a reputation and is well known for her actions. I won't say any more as I don't like to talk bad about anyone. Anyway, what could possibly be said to this guy to help him see through her more obvious charms?

The answer. . .Nothing!

He has his opinion about her and anything that is contrary to his opinion would go against the person who brought it up.

So, he has to find out for himself and make his own opinion.

I hope it doesn't cost him too much.