am i giving too much?

[taikmata]

windup? up to you to believe or not.

anyway, thanks for all the advice. truly appreciate it.

[paul_au]

i know she will cry. i know she will say she loves me. i know she will keep calling and sms-ing me, etc.

thats what she did the last time. on my part, i just have to be tough and maybe even brutal - not falling into the same trap again. walk away and never turn back.

Don't bother walking away, let her do the walking. Just turn off the money tap, put a pad lock on it and through away the key. She will then abuse you for not financing her extravagant life style and walk off her self, you will never see her again. Would you really want a woman that just sticks around and loves you for money, that is the definition of a desperado. If on the unlikely chance she stays with out payment, then maybe this girl is worth keeping.

[lenss]

FIP, you may have something in your observation.

[johnster]

i think he could be

[el charro]

A tradesman here in Germany earns about 40K a month without overtime. This girl must be a real worker.

[bassai]

A tradesman here in Germany earns about 40K a month without overtime. This girl must be a real worker.

Is that all? I was under the impression that tradespeople earned a fairly high wage in Germany.

You may be on to something FIP. Sure sounds like an awful lot of money got thrown around before the doubt set in.

Anyway taikmata you may find that you can tighten up on the money supply and it does'nt mean the relationship has to end. Here's a chance to grow and develop a stronger relationship with deeper understanding and trust or a chance to escape with minimal emotional and finical damage.

[FaranginPhetch]

windup? up to you to believe or not.

anyway, thanks for all the advice. truly appreciate it.

Whether it is or not is no bodys business but yours, what she asks for and what you give her is no bodys business, and I think you are a fool for even bringing this into a discussion on an international forum.

either you are happy with the status quo or you are not and no one can truly guide you but your own beliefs and you are either happy with it or you are not.

If you think that it is what you want, then give her whatever is fair in your own mind, any action in a relationship that is in doubt is doomed to failure and bringing this into discussion is a sure sign of failure.

You do not seem to be in a love relationship, but is more akin to a purchase, same as buying a car or any other tangible goods and you will only pay what you are comfortable with.

Just depends on the merchandise.

[pclev]

Thai women try to hook-up with Farang men because every Farang man is rich and is the answer to all of the financial needs of her, her parents, her close relatives, and possibly her distant relatives.
Start your relationship from this mind-set and go from there.

She does not want you because you are God's gift to women or because God made you personally for her. You represent a means-to-an-end and if you two end-up loving one another, then that is just extra good luck. For her the good luck starts with you being farang. If she does not have at least a small backdoor open into her heart to truly love you, then you are screwed, blue, and tattooed.

The trick to success is the place that you two are able to meet in the middle. THB 40K is way off to one side and it is not your side. It seems that if you are going to have anything to do with this Thai girl or any other Thai girl, then you will need to get a better grasp of basic Thai thinking.

For single Thai women (and their mothers) you are as much a decision towards the future of their family than anything about love. Love finds it way when both people take care of the other (it is the same in all cultures) and all may not be lost. You have made some fundamental mistakes that will be really hard to correct in your multi-cultural relationship. The only thing left to do is to decide whether it is worth it.

I would bail.

[lenss]

Pclev comment "You represent a means to an end and if you two end up loving one another, then that is just extra good luck". Now don't that hit the nail on the head??

[FaranginPhetch]

Thai women try to hook-up with Farang men because every Farang man is rich and is the answer to all of the financial needs of her, her parents, her close relatives, and possibly her distant relatives.

But is that post directly attached to your relationship with your wife and is she the same as the women that you refer to in your post.?