Chinese girlfriend

[Pailin]

Paul, enough. Especially with the new people who don't know that this is your standard broken record.

[Janusz]

Paul i understand maybe you had bad experience but ...

but im here just to know something more about customs (other than sin sod or pin jing)

and maybe someoen from you guys had a chinese gf and can say something about them ?

[lenss]

Janus. If you hope to learn customs and traditions all in a day, well, not going to happen. Customs of other nationalities are complicated. Our own customs are complicated and constantly go thru flux. And you can be married to a thai, or lao or a chinese for 30 years and still not know or understand all customs and traditions. I would think lthat if you took things slow. Like learn a little here and there, you'll be fine. Thais lao and chinese are friendly people.

[yeows]

Marriage preparation is a private affair between your family and hers. If you follow the local tradition, her family and the local folks will respect you because you respect their customs and culture.

[Sved]

The sinsod is a highly complicated matter. I think if you look in old threads I think u find plenty of arguments from all sides.

Imo intercultural relationships is about giving and taking, like in all relationships.

That said my advice is to relax and let common sense prevail.

Everyone will understand u dont know about their customs.

[Janusz]

Marriage preparation is a private affair between your family and hers. If you follow the local tradition, her family and the local folks will respect you because you respect their customs and culture.

I understand and if i one day will get marry i want to do everything with local tradition to as you said gain respect from her family.

and lenss you have right i cant learn all the customs in one day and hope i be able to learn some about them in my live after i'll marry my girlfriend

oh
with help of Pailin i have some other questions :
can someone tell me what is the kind of relationship that most boyfriends have with Thai/Chinese parents?

or

What does a typical date look like in Thai / Chinese relationships?

[Pailin]

I've talked with Janusz over pm and he actually has a lot of questions, and a good intention to have a positive relationship. His first questions about culture were probably too braod. Let me try and help him out and share some questions we came up with over pm.

What does a "date" look like in Thailand?
Is "dating" different in Thailand than what you've experienced in your home country?
What kind of relationships do you have with the family of the person you are dating?
What are some relationship pitfalls to avoid?

[Pailin]

Hahahahaaha! I see you chimed in at the same time.

[Sved]

can someone tell me what is the kind of relationship that most boyfriends have with Thai/Chinese parents?

Well

My father in law is chinese and we have a very good relationship. After all we are almost cellmates (my wife and her mother have the same personality )

[BUCKY]

for example :
- i hear that i cant touch my gf when be in her house(she be chinese)
- or i should give a gift by right hand not left to her parents
- or smile a lot when i dont know the language to good and let her to speak for me

- holding hands should be ok unless the parents are the super traditional types who still wear cheong san. Even in Western countries I suppose you don't feel up your girlfriend at her parents house in front of her parents right?
- Never heard about the right or left hand thing. I suggest both hands then.
- Ya. Smiles always work. Learn some mandarin if you want to impress the parents too.