Need opinion

[zali5363]

thanks to all of you for the responsed given...well as i said earlier i am not trying to persuade he to follow me neither do her..we both knows the religious matter may arise sooner or later..that's why i have decided to go meet her parents but just as good friends therefore i can know what are their acceptance towards me..will see how is their response..i dont expect her parents will be the same as her brother who can accept our relationship because he knows that her sister really having a hard time in her previous marriage...so when she told her brother about me and my background we manage to get along very well...
just want to clarify something with paul..do i sound radical when involving religious matter..i don't think so...i think there are so many times i mentioning that either me or her we never persuade each other because for us our precious relationship should comes first...and both of us are really ready for the outcomes ..anyway thanks to all you guys for giving your opinion...

[Sved]

It's actually a recent trend in Iran to marry Japanese girls.

Up to the point like you don't react where you see a mixed couple in northern Tehran.

[misterA]

I suppose the point I don't understand - is when does the relationship become unacceptable to one's religion? It seems if it were unacceptable to marry it would also be unacceptable at the moment.

[paul_au]

just want to clarify something with paul..do i sound radical when involving religious matter..i don't think so...i think there are so many times i mentioning that either me or her we never persuade each other because for us our precious relationship should comes first...and both of us are really ready for the outcomes ..anyway thanks to all you guys for giving your opinion...

Well I believe many people from none muslim countries any where in the world would consider your views radical as you are totally inflexible when it comes to her keeping her own religion if yous two were to get married. Inflexibility and radicalism, are closely linked and dangerous, Yes you write your posts very diplomatically, however if there is a hypocritical element to a post that does not allow flexibility than the diplomacy is null and void. That may explain.
The Question here that every one wants to know, are you willing to marry this girl if she decided to keep her religion, if your not willing to marry this girl under these circumstances, you are reinforcing your radical views.

[oeshidez]

Well I believe many people from none muslim countries any where in the world would consider your views radical No , I don t see the same as you just post Paul and I think I am not the only one who disagree with you.

as you are totally inflexible when it comes to her keeping her own religion if yous two were to get married. Inflexibility and radicalism, Speak for yourself???are closely linked and dangerous, Yes you write your posts very diplomatically, however if there is a hypocritical element to a post that does not allow flexibility than the diplomacy is null and void. That may explain. Are you talking about your behavior again????
The Question here that every one wants to know No I don t want to know It is not our business,isnt it?, Just hope they will fixed up their problem and find the way out are you willing to marry this girl if she decided to keep her religion, if your not willing to marry this girl under these circumstances, you are reinforcing your radical views.

and I think you are the king of radical views and inflexible person, sorry it is what I feel from your posted.

Before you posted about a very sensitive topic , please read an info or rules of something you are going to give your opinion such as religions. From your post , you show us that you know nothing about what you are talking about other religions. and from your other posts you are not flexible thought either, so I think you are not qualifiled to tell other members to be flexible in any topics.

[paul_au]

I agree I'm not a very flexible persion my self, because I only except rationalism over superstition, but I have had a relationship with a Thai buddhist woman even though I'm a rationalistic atheist, Even though I would have liked my Thai woman to change to atheism, I did not expect her to change with my strong beliefs of rationalism and was quite happy for her to have her own mind and her own religion her own opinions, even though they differed to mine, what a boring place the world would be if we all thought the same. I'm only expressing my personal opinion, you don't have to agree and I'm flexible to changing my mind if you can prove me wrong, I happen to like zali5363 he makes some very valid positive points about his position in his relationship and I agree with 90% of what he says, it's just this one point I don't agree with and I'm sure zali5363 would not want me to lie about my opinions to pander to what he want to here, he has thanked me for my oppions even though I'm sure he does not agree to every thing I have said

[oeshidez]

I agree I'm not a very flexible persion my self, because I only except rationalism over superstition, but I have had a relationship with a Thai buddhist woman even though I'm a rationalistic atheist, Even though I would have liked my Thai woman to change to atheism, I did not expect her to change with my strong beliefs of rationalism and was quite happy for her to have her own mind and her own religion her own opinions, even though they differed to mine Yes ofcourse, you , what a boring place the world would be if we all thought the same. I'm only expressing my personal opinion, you don't have to agree and I'm flexible to changing my mind if you can prove me wrong,Do we have to prove anything more????, all you had been written and posted which show all what you are being. You did prove yourself to others already I happen to like zali5363 he makes some very valid positive points about his position in his relationship and I agree with 90% of what he says, it's just this one point I don't agree with and I'm sure zali5363 would not want me to lie about my opinions to pander to what he want to here, he has thanked me for my oppions even though I'm sure he does not agree to every thing I have said

Sure, when he spends more time and reading on the forum and reading more of your posts , He will get an idea.

Thank Paul_au , This is the first sensible post from you since I have been in the forum nearly a year!.And I hope and would love to see it more ( not only once in a life time)
I guess it is not the first sensible from your posted since you are a member in this website! or am I wrong?

[Samyang]

Should a 1500 year old book "of rules" (2000 if you're a christian) decide how people nowadays should handle love? It's just crazy. This is an example of how much power the religion has. It's too much power.

If religion is about love then you should be able to love whoever you want.

[Betti]

could you please stop repeating the same thing over and over again? the person who asked a question can read English and understands perfectly if you say your opinion once. he already understands that you think he is crazy and a fanatic. no need to repeat.

thank you for your understanding.

[Samyang]

Are you talking to me Betti? Was i repeating myself?

I have never said he was "fanatic or crazy". You're putting words in my mouth.

I just want him to think twice. And I also would like to wish him good luck with love.

Sorry for upsetting you or anyone else with my posts.