Need Help....

[mmaaddict]

My relationship with the Thai girl is in deep trouble....

I'm separated from my first wife and the other day she asked if she could stay in my house for 2 days while she and a friend moves houses. She works nights, so shes only at the house during the day and she stayed in the spare room. I had my bedroom locked.

I didn't tell my Thai girl that my ex was going to stay the 2 days...because I know she wouldn't have understood....let me explain what i mean....one time we were chatting on yahoo and i took a long time to reply to her and she thought i was doing something else...so she abruptly says shes going now and that we'd chat tomoro. I asked her why? but wouldn't say anything just got to go.... anyway she logged off but the next morning she sent an e-mail saying sorry for acting childish. So after that episode...I told her to just tell me or explain to me if I do anything wrong etc.

I know I should have told her about my ex staying the 2 days but after that previous episode....I unwisely decided not to say anything about my ex staying in my house.

Then this morning while I was still asleep in my bed, my ex had arrived at my place after her work and went on a friends laptop I had been using to chat with my Thai girl because it has a webcam. My ex was on her facebook but my yahoo messenger was still online and my Thai girl thought it was me....of course...My Thai girl sent a message "your up early honey" and my ex replied " your honey isn't up yet". My Thai girl asked who it was that was on....and my ex says..."His Wife". Do you believe this shit..... she didn't say ex wife just his wife....now it might be just a mistake....(we had been married for about 10 yrs) and it was out of habit or she was trying to stuff my relationship up.

Anyway....I need to know....What can I do to get my Thai girl to talk to me? How can I make it up to her? I know I should have told her about my ex staying those days...I'm kicking myself for making that mistake.

My Thai girl has removed me from her facebook friends and she sent me an e-mail.... basically saying that I'm still with my wife and that I was just fooling her...which isn't true at all.

We have been chatting everyday for about a month now and I know its not along time but we had a connection from the first chat and we had fallin for each other in a big way.

I need and want to fix this problem.... I need anybodies help to win her back.

Thanks, waiting for any help,

Kevin

[Marie]

Kevin,

I would explain to her the same way you did in your post. I found it credible. Come clean. Tell her about your fears why you didn't mention about your ex coming to stay with you. But of course don't foget to apologize for any hurt you might have caused her.

I think your ex deliberately didn't mention about her being an ex. This is not uncommmon among many exes; they somehow want to 'retaliate' by making the new relationships of their ex complicated and troublesome.

Good luck!.

[mmaaddict]

Kevin,

I would explain to her the same way you did in your post. I found it credible. Come clean. Tell her about your fears why you didn't mention about your ex coming to stay with you. But of course don't foget to apologize for any hurt you might have caused her.

I think your ex deliberately didn't mention about her being an ex. This is not uncommmon among many exes; they somehow want to 'retaliate' by making the new relationships of their ex complicated and troublesome.

Good luck!.

To be honest..I'd walk on broken glass to get her back.....I hope she'll let me explain it to her....I kick myself every time i think of how stupid i was....

Thanks

Kevin

[Marie]

To be honest..I'd walk on broken glass to get her back.....I hope she'll let me explain it to her....I kick myself every time i think of how stupid i was....

Thanks

Kevin

We all commit mistakes, stupidities in our life. Some can be undone, some cannot. But the most decent thing to do is own them up and explain to the other party where and how you goofed. If despite your best efforts she wouldn't listen to you, let her go. She is one who may think that this a perfect world and life with her would make you constantly "walk on broken glass".

Of course this one was your fault. But learn to forgive yourself. The zen thing to do after that is think that this is no longer about who you are, about what you have done, but about who she is, about her being her. And the latter might be very difficult to change.

[mmaaddict]

We all commit mistakes, stupidities in our life. Some can be undone, some cannot. But the most decent thing to do is own them up and explain to the other party where and how you goofed. If despite your best efforts she wouldn't listen to you, let her go. She is one who may think that this a perfect world and life with her would make you constantly "walk on broken glass".

Of course this one was your fault. But learn to forgive yourself. The zen thing to do after that is think that this is no longer about who you are, about what you have done, but about who she is, about her being her. And the latter might be very difficult to change.

I know shes a stubburn girl so if she does talk to me it might be a few days before she does. I'm hoping she'll talk tonight but mmmm...doubt it.

Thanks

Kevin

[homejames]

Send your Thai Girl a link to this Post on this Forum.
You sound genuine to me :-)

[ravip]

Definitely, you have a very difficult task. You know her best - so act patiently and try to explain the whole incident.

I wish you Good Luck too!

[Khun Don]

Any hope of getting the "ex" to clear things up with your girlfriend directly?

[mmaaddict]

Any hope of getting the "ex" to clear things up with your girlfriend directly?

First thing is i need to get my thai girl to talk to me.... she even removed me from her facebook...which doesn't sound too good.

So until she talks to me I can't do anything...which sucks big time...the only way we communicated was by yahoo messenger and e-mail.

Everything was going perfectly..we were organising my trip to Bangkok and phuket for us both.... and in a night its all gone to s__t.

[mmaaddict]

Send your Thai Girl a link to this Post on this Forum.
You sound genuine to me :-)

I am genuine...it has gutted me...to be honest.... she is so special to me!