Help to understand my thai girlfriend

[memyself]

Hi, I,m been dating a thai woman for 7-8 months now, and we really do like each other.

But a couple a weeks ago I discovered she had met a another man, with the intention to see if he could be a future boyfriend/ husband. She had been communicating with him about a month before they met, it was her friend who set them up, and made the connection.

After I discovered this, she said she didn't like him, and wanted only me. They just met and talked, so she didn't think she had done anything wrong. Nevertheless, I was heartbroken since I didn't like it.

Now I don't know if I am getting paranoid, but I feel she is protecting her mobile phone more than ever. I try to ask her out about it, but she only gets angry and tells me I just have to trust her.

Recently I asked to much for her honesty and tell me what's going on, so she in anger broke off with me. The day after she regrets it, wants me to forgive her.

I was wondering if a chat with her friends could clarifie for me whats going on? They have written the following on facebook. They write in thai, I have tried to translate by using google translate, but it isnt very good.

What do you make out of the following:
Girlfriend: Love is either leaving me or I leave love
Friend1: ไรนิเจ๊ เลิกเหรอ
Girlfriend: ว่างั้นแหละเขาขี้หึงมาก ปวดหัว
Friend1: ไม่เป็นไร เป็นกําลังใจให้. สู้ๆนะ
Friend2: กินแกงหน่อไม้ใส่ผักชะอมดีกว่า ไม่ต้องจุ๊บใคร
Friend3: ไม่จุ๊บจริงอ่ะ?กินด้วยๆๆฮิๆๆ
Friend2: มาได้รึ? คนมีสามีอะ
Girlfriend:คนบ้านใกล้ๆไม่ชวนมั้งเลย ปลอบใจน้องมั้งก็ไม่มีแถมจะหนีไปเมืองไทยอีก
Friend3: เก็บใส่ตะเกียงไว้ก่อนไงเจ้...แล้วถึงเวลามารับค่อยถ ูๆๆๆออกมาอิอิอิ
Friend2: ชวนแล้วๆ ไปได้ป่าว? ฝรั่งแถวลุนดะมีสลบแน่ ผักขากะบักอึ คับท่าน

Can anyone try to help me, and see if this conversation they have can tell me what is going on?

Thanks in advance.

[paul_au]

It's obvious she is not that in to you and is open to another relationship if something better comes along.
The only reason your still with her is this other guy was not that into her to make a commitment of more than a one or 2 night fling.
Personally I would not be taking your relationship to seriously,
you have two choices
1st) dump her now.
or
2nd) Just go out with her at your own convenience and never make any emotional commitment to her, make shore she contributes more to the relationship than you give her and always be on the lookout for some one better, then dump her at your own convenience when you find some one, hopefully you do this before she finds some one first.
It's quite obvious when she gets angry and threatens you with leaving, she is using emotional blackmail against you to control you, honestly do you really want a woman that treats you like that, it can only be lust & desperation on your part to stay with her, as there is no genuine love in your relationship.
Personally I would not be waisting my time and get in first and dump her now.

[memyself]

Thanks for your answer. How can you know this, what does the text really say? Translation of the text?

[Betti]

Paul cannot read Thai and has a long-held grudge against Thai women.
sorry I can't help translating, there are bits that are totally unclear to me. I hope someone can help.

[memyself]

After I discovered her meeting, she had said she has decided to be mine even more. She meant this meeting had made her convinced that I was the right for her. And of course she said she wouldt meet anyone like that again.

[Nu]

What do you make out of the following:
Girlfriend: Love is either leaving me or I leave love
Friend1: ไรนิเจ๊ เลิกเหรอ What is it, sister? Are you breaking up with him?
Girlfriend: ว่างั้นแหละเขาขี้หึงมาก ปวดหัว Yes, I think so. He’s too jealous. It gives me a headache.
Friend1: ไม่เป็นไร เป็นกําลังใจให้. สู้ๆนะ ahhh….it’s ok, lean on me, I’ll lend you my shoulder. Have courage!.
Friend2: กินแกงหน่อไม้ใส่ผักชะอมดีกว่า ไม่ต้องจุ๊บใคร I’ll have some bamboo and bitter leaves curry. I don’t have to kiss anybody.
Friend3: ไม่จุ๊บจริงอ่ะ?กินด้วยๆๆฮิๆๆ Really, no kissing? I want some too…hi hi (laughing)
Friend2: มาได้รึ? คนมีสามีอะ You can come? You have a husband.
Girlfriend:คนบ้านใกล้ๆไม่ชวนมั้งเลย ปลอบใจน้องมั้งก็ไม่มีแถมจะหนีไปเมืองไทยอีก humm…you don’t invite me, your neighbor? You don’t comfort (me)your sis? Not only that, you are going to leave for Thailand soon.
Friend3: เก็บใส่ตะเกียงไว้ก่อนไงเจ้...แล้วถึงเวลามารับค่อยถ ูๆๆๆออกมาอิอิอิ (I am saving him (husband) in a lamp…when the time comes (for him to pick me up), I can rub the lamp and let the genie out (call him to come and pick me up to go home). ieieie
Friend2: ชวนแล้วๆ ไปได้ป่าว? ฝรั่งแถวลุนดะมีสลบแน่ ผักขากะบักอึ คับท่ I am inviting you now. Can you come? People in the neighborhood will faint because of the smell of the food.

[Nu]

The above post is only the translation of the conversation the OP requested. I offer no opinion in the matter.

[memyself]

I understand you don't want to offer a opinion Nu, thats all right. These things are always more complex than we can try to explain in a text.
The translation didn't help me much, it was nothing to reveal her nature.

[memyself]

Friday at 3 o clock she broke off with me. Friday at 9 in the evening she wrote the headline, and saturday right before 9 in the morning she wrote "yes I think i will break up with him. His jealousy gives me headache." 10 minutes after this, she sends me and sms where she writes "I love you, believe me when I say this. Can u forgive me?"

Women....hard to decide, it seems....

[Marie]

The above post is only the translation of the conversation the OP requested. I offer no opinion in the matter.

Then I will offer one. Haha!

Memyself, she thinks you're over jealous! Perhaps you should be more reasonable? Have a good talk with her. Explain to her what makes you jealous or confused and what she can do to stop it. Now, if she ignores your reasonable requests and continues to be insensitive to your feelings, well, that's a different story.