My update and progress with Thai young man

[alexandra1]

A while back I posted a thread named "Could someone shed some light on Thai men?". I didn't reply to the several posts that were made on the thread for a while because I thought I needed some time to see how my relationship progressed with Nui (that's his nickname) and also think about what everyone replied...

I read some positive comments and some negative comments. I felt some were wise words of advice (after all, I am young and inexperienced). I felt some were quite scary (I even happened to come across one particular comment about how the guy in question, being a Muslim, will only want me as his virgin slave... I think the scariness of the comment is pretty much self-explanatory).

Now I've decided to start this new thread about my progress with him.

It's been nearly two months since we last saw eachother. We talk via Facebook every single day without fail (sometimes by Facebook chat and sometimes by sending private messages), except for when he leaves for a day or two to his hometown in Krabi. Which he complains is not very often.

He likes to ask me about life in Spain, my culture, my interests and my future life plans. We've also talked about the inevitable: in September I'll be starting university in Spain and I'll surely meet many new boys. He has told me that he would like me to tell him if I meet "a new boyfriend" in Spain, and he has also promised me that he will do the same, in the case he meets a new girl.

He also mentioned that he has spoken about me to his mother.

For now we've decided to just stay as friends, but he likes to remind me every day that he thinks I have a good heart and wants to see me for sure the next time I go to Thailand (which will be next summer, but I can try to go again earlier) so that he can take care of me. He says he likes me very much!

Luckily he knows enough English for us to be able to communicate well! I'm also studying Thai every day using David Smyth's book Teach yourself Thai. I'm quite happy with this book as I am beginning to read sentences in Thai!

I feel very happy with how this is all going. I see he is genuinely interested in my life and in not losing contact with me.

What do you think?

[djaidee]

Many young people like to Chat to improve their English Skills, so I bet you are not the only one "girl" he is chatting too.

When you are coming back try to get to know him better, take your time and don't rush; keep us updated how it works in the future.

[Pii]

Oh, I just saw your update. Well, I guess it's wise to decide to be friends first, especially since you're in that long-distance situation. He seems to be honest. Don't let the negative comments influence you too much though, they scared me as well, when I was your age (4 years ago haha) but you always have to see both sides... it's not just "thai guys" and "western guys" - all the good and bad happens on both sides. Spanish husbands go to prostitutes and have affairs too.

He has the same name as my boyfriend... could it be my.....?
Just kidding. I would know. Haha. But funny they have the same name.

[Marianne1]

Well I've been with my Thai boyfriend for two years now and we're both very happy. We've been living together for over a year now and hes not had any of my money. He's sensitive and thoughtful so you shouldn't tar them all with the same brush.
After all every country has good and bad people - we're only human!
Good luck
xo

[Susana]

Hi Alexandra1,

I'm glad you came back to give us an update.

I believe we need all the friends we can get, and by getting to know your young man you could be developing a life long friendship. Even if nothing further develops in the future it will always be good to have him as a friend. The future will take care of itself.

I hope you will continue to enjoy many trips to Thailand and make many more friends. Please continue to keep us informed. Best wishes.

[paul_au]

Just another case of Tiger Woods Syndrome, let them find out the hard way when they get married, they will eventually find out what there really like, but with out the money..

[Susana]

Oh Paul . . . . sigh..........................................

[Marianne1]

Just another case of Tiger Woods Syndrome, let them find out the hard way when they get married, they will eventually find out what there really like, but with out the money..

Tiger woods syndrome? Is that aimed at me?
Do you suggest we find ourselves a nice grumpy Australian man?

[paul_au]

Tiger woods syndrome? Is that aimed at me?
Do you suggest we find ourselves a nice grumpy Australian man?

Yes, At least what comes out of the mouth of a nice grumpy Australian man is the truth, strait to the point and none of that charm crap which has more to do with manipulation and lies.

[visionchaser45]

Paul is a self-declared "expert" on relationship issues. His expertise is supported by his long history of success in the relationship arena. There is no point in arguing with an expert because he is the purveyor of "truth."