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[paul_au]

Incidentally, there still are quite a number of dead women who had filed restraining orders.

The fact that the men who date these woman witch have a restraining order against there X are more likely to be murdered than the woman them selves does not even rate in the media. Men are about 4 times more likely to be the murdered victim than the woman in these cases, it's about time men got equal treatment with the law.

[Betti]

of course people need to be protected, especially vulnerable immigrant women who may be sucked into trafficking and worse. however, issuing a restraining order without any evidence, investigation or reports just because someone accuses someone of something.... hard to believe it can happen :-(
I was surprised because I know Australia demands a very thorough health checkup for all immigrants. I would have guessed others are the same. in eastern Europe, we routinely get vaccinated for TB at birth and you need to submit a TB scan for any job that involves meeting with clients (such as health care, education or public service). it is quite rare but the countries to the east of us haven't fought it so successfully so they cannot relax the requirements as yet. so, that's why it was surprising for me.
btw, guess what test Thailand started to require for ANNUAL extension of work permits. nope, not HIV. not TB. not something that can be contracted by inhaling the same air as your students. it is bloody SYPHILIS negative they are after. you know, a disease that is only transmitted sexually or by blood as far as I am aware, and that can be treated very effectively and poses no danger to others if managed properly. just in case you are sleeping around, or I don't know.... makes you wonder what the heck is going on.

[paul_au]

The fact in most cases your biggest financial asset is the family home. Under Australian law the family home is considered a different class of asset, it don't matter if you owned it out right and took 30 years paying it off before marriage, it will never be yours after 2 years of marriage, your wife or husband can claim half or even up to 80% of this asset if children are given custody after 2 years to the person who contributed nothing, destroying that persons comfortable retirement, that they worked like a dog to accumulate.
No wonder Australian men refuse to have children, forcing the Australian government to import immigrants to maintain population growth.
If Governments changed the laws to encourage people to have children, there would be no need for imigration.
I personally will never have children because of this.
Advice, if any man owns a house and is considering getting married, just rent it out or sell it and move into a rented property. Owning a family home is just not worth it in a marriage.

[Susana]

I googled 'is TB on the rise in the US' (as I had heard it was) and found an article at medicine.org

Yes, it is on the rise in the US, and more than half the numbers are due to infection among immigrants. I'm not anti-immigrant, but I am pro common sense.

Another reason cited is the increase in homelessness, along with an increased number of people in nursing homes, and the fact that people living with aids are more prone to the infection due to a compromised immune system.

[Betti]

I only realised recently where you are coming from with these rants. I would totally understand the outrage from someone who was cheated out of the fruits of decades of hard work with a brief marriage. in Hungarian law such a home would stay private property even after decades of marriage (cars and other everyday items do become shared property after 15 years - I looked it up now).

[Concernedcitizen]

Hello,

THIS IS MORE INFORMATION THAN I EXPECTED TO WRITE ABOUT, but...

My post is not to complain, but to Educate. I was an Expat in Thailand for 13 years and I never heard one example of the Violence Against Women Act (VAWA).

Domestic Violence Laws are there to protect real abused women (and men) and I want these laws on the books to protect (if needed) the ladies of my family; my two daughters and three granddaughters.

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January 2009 - Since I met my Immigrant wife during September 2005, I had never met anyone from the United States Department of Homeland Security. I sensed something was not right at home so on January 27, 2009 when my Immigrant wife went to stay with her Thai employer (under the table); I started to write down my thoughts about our relationship and marriage.

I was my Immigrant wife’s sponsor and I was responsible for her actions. I thought it would be best if my concerns were on record with the Department of Homeland Security before anything in the future might take place and / or said. I did not know what my Immigrant wife was doing, and our marriage was very unstable with no communication.

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January 27, 2009 - Immigrant wife went to stay with her Thai employer.

February 9, 2009 - In 90 days (May 9, 2009) Immigrant wife’s Permanent Resident Card expires.

February 12 to 16, 2009 - Immigrant wife un-expectantly returns home for a 3 day well planned visit to get her personal items.

February 13, 2009 - Things were not right, so I hand deliver my 1st letter (relationship and marriage, 10 pages) to the Department of Homeland Security, Immigration Custom & Enforcement office (7th floor) at the Prince Kuhio Federal Building.

DHS Agent XXX informed me he / the Department of Homeland Security could only take my paperwork, and they could not discuss anything with me.

February 16, 2009 - While I’m at work my Immigrant wife disappears, and overnight her family in Thailand are not worried, and they will not cooperate with any conversation.

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February 23, 2009 - I hand deliver my second letter to the Department of Homeland Security - U.S. Citizenship and Immigration Services on Ala Moana Boulevard.

I did not know where my Immigrant wife was staying, or what she was doing. I was her husband and sponsor and I was responsible for her actions, so I informed the Department of Homeland Security that I would return each week with a written update.

March 3, 2009 - I hand deliver my third letter to the Department of Homeland Security.

March 9, 2009 - I hand deliver my four letter to the Department of Homeland Security.

March 19, 2009 - I hand deliver my fifth letter to the Department of Homeland Security.

March 25, 2009 - I was served with a Petition for an Order for Protection (TRO) at the Kaneohe police station. I was to be in court on April 8.

March 27, 2009 - I hand deliver my sixth letter to the Department of Homeland Security, and I informed them; “I told you something was going to happen to me”. I leave them a copy of the March 25, 2009 Petition for an Order for Protection (TRO).

Again, each time I hand delivered one of my six letters to the Department of Homeland & Security, I was informed that I could leave my paperwork, but nobody could meet, or discuss anything with me.

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March 27, 2009 - I walk into the respected law office of Coates & Frey. I explained to the law firm that my Immigrant wife’s 7 serious verbal allegations were false, and I wanted them to defend (USD 3,000 retainer fee) me of these charges.

Summarized Version
April 6, 2009 - My attorney waited until 2 days before my court appearance to have our strategy meeting. I kept informing my attorney that I did not do what my Immigrant wife alleged, and I wanted to fight the charges.

My attorney asked me point blank, “can you prove 100% that all 7 serious verbal allegations are not true”? I told her “of course but we have to be in court in two days, let’s get to work”. I explained to my attorney about my weekly letters to the Department of Homeland Security, and I informed her that my Immigrant wife left her diary.

My attorney told me I would go to court alone to save attorney expenses, and if my Immigrant wife asked for more than a 1 year Petition for an Order for Protection (TRO), that I would ask for a continuance without any findings that any of the written language is true.

I remember immediately saying to my attorney, “I’m not agreeing to that”, and she shot back and said “yes you are”. I told her again “I’m not agreeing to that” and she shot back again “yes you are”.

** My attorney then asked me if I still wanted to see my Immigrant wife, to which I replied “will I guess not, it does not appear she wants to see me anymore”.

** My attorney then told me that my Petition for an Order for Protection (TRO) would be buried so far in the State of Hawaii records that nobody would know.

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Very Important - Then my attorney spoke to me those Golden Words. My attorney told me that if I wanted to continue to Attempt to communicate with my United States “federal” Department of Homeland Security & Immigration, that I should agree to the Time Only portion on the Petition for an Order for Protection (TRO), with the wording: The Parties have agreed to the issuance of this Order but the Respondent (me) denies the Allegations in the Petition.

Of course I had to Attempt to communicate with my “federal” Department of Homeland Security. My Immigrant wife had already lied to the “state” of Hawaii and she served me with a 7 serious verbal allegations Petition for an Order for Protection (TRO).

Also, I had already hand delivered 6 letters to my United States Department of Homeland, and who knows what other lies and tales my Immigrant wife was telling my "federal" government. In my eyes and thinking; the “federal” government trumps the “state” government…

One more time:
1. Since I met my Immigrant wife during September 2005, I had never met anyone from the United States “federal” Department of Homeland Security.
2. I was never arrested, and no city / state police officer or detective ever asked me "one" question.

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April 6, 2009 - It is two days before my court appearance and my attorney had me so scared that no matter how much evidence I had, unless I could prove “100 percent” that all 7 serious verbal allegations are not true, then it would be unwise (the odds) for me to let the Circuit Judge make that decision.

But - If I agreed to the Time Only “state” of Hawaii Petition for an Order for Protection (TRO), with the following wording: The Parties have agreed to the issuance of this Order but the Respondent (me) denies the Allegations in the Petition, THEN I would still be able to Attempt to communicate with my United States “federal” Department of Homeland Security.

Coates & Frey is a well respected Hawaii law firm, and you listen to your legal team.

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April 8, 2009 (court date 1) - I went to court and did what my attorney instructed me to do. My Immigrant wife was asking for a 3 to 2 year Petition for an Order for Protection. I asked for a continuance; without any findings that any of the written language was true.

April 22, 2009 (court date 2) - My attorney met me at court. I tried to discuss my innocence and defense with my attorney, but she was not happy with my discussion.

Because my Immigrant wife was asking for a 3 year Petition for an Order for Protection (TRO), my attorney told me she would attempt to negotiate a 1 year Petition for an Order for Protection (time only). Before the court proceedings, my attorney and my Immigrant wife’s attorney went back and forth.

Before we met the Circuit Judge, my attorney explained to me that a 1 year Petition for an Order for Protection (time only) had been agreed to.

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When we met the Circuit Judge, my Immigrant wife’s attorney immediately asked for a 3 year Petition for an Order for Protection (TRO).

When I realized what was going on and they were attempting to negotiate a 3 year Petition for an Order for Protection right there in court, my innocence took over and I immediately said out loud “NO”! My attorney turned to me left and said in a certain tone of voice “Why”. The Circuit Judge did not say a word, nor did she question my outburst of “NO”; she just looked at me.

After my attorney’s outburst of “Why”, I was shocked and intimidated in front of the Judge / court and I agreed to a 1 1/2 years Petition for an Order for Protection (time only) WITH the following wording; The Parties have agreed to the issuance of this Order but the Respondent (me) denies the allegations in the Petition.

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May 9, 2009 - Immigrant wife’s Permanent Resident Card expires.

February 18, 2010 - I went on the web and for the first time, I read about the Violence Against Women Act (VAWA).

God Bless America!!!

[Susana]

Since you have told us so much already, I hope you do not mind my asking the following:

You quoted yourself as saying 'I told you something was going to happen to me.' I can only assume that means you were threatened in some way. Did I understand correctly?

I have never known of anyone giving up a Green Card, so I wonder if in such a case where you were her sponsor, did the immigration department notify you of this? And do they send any notification that you are no longer responsible for her? I guess I would have assumed that she could renew her green card and stay in the country, once she had it, or was her keeping it contingent upon a marriage?

I've been quickly reading while doing other work online, so I may have missed something. Also, I know I'm asking none-of-my-business type questions, so if you decline to answer, I will certainly respect your feelings.

[Susana]

Sorry, I got a bit confused as to whether or not you were married or just engaged. Now that I take another look I see it in plain black and white that you were in fact married.

[khonrai]

Hi

this post is starting to smell like a fake or a troll.

Haveing gone thru the immigration process twice" I was married to a chinese woman before." I kept all my assets and house "Paul"
(I lost everything because of the houseing market collapse of 2007)

a lot of what the poster is saying doesn't make sense. or isn't the normal situation.

at least from my own personal experience's and those of all of my friends married to
immigrants.

and why in the world would you stick with an attorney who didn't listen to your wish's

YOU need to divorce your wife and start a seperate proceeding in a civil case
to give you some leverage.

It is almost 2012 and he is only up to 2010 on his diatribe

can't wait ti find out how it all ends

If you are trying to educate then do don't use your ancedotale life story.
all I really know right now is that you got screwed over by a woman who happens to be Thai then you come to this forum to vent

and all we have is your side we have no idea her side or if what you are saying is true.

the divorce laws in USA are nothing like what Paul says about Auzzie divorce laws
but then he has never been divorced. but that never stops him from proclaiming to be an expert

[paul_au]

Hi

this post is starting to smell like a fake or a troll.

Haveing gone thru the immigration process twice" I was married to a chinese woman before." I kept all my assets and house "Paul"
(I lost everything because of the housing market collapse of 2007)

It was unfortunate you bort into the housing market at the wrong time, an unforeseen circumstance and it shows you must have had a minimal amount of equity in that home at purchase, but If you lost every thing in the housing market collapse it can only mean your liabilities were greater than your equity, you only got to keep your home from these immigrants because it was made up of 110% dept. If you have got no asset value than no one in there right mind would volunteer to take over your dept. Like I say you cant get blood out of a stone.
You say you been married 3 times, well that probably why, you have nothing to take, so there not hanging around to get a bigger slice.