I missed the contact of my thai lover

[BUCKY]

Don't keep us waiting too long na.

Seens like a long wait.. :p hehehe

[nok_lam]

Yes, i really found her!
On last Sat, I went to bkk and planned to visit the university and her home.
When I arrived at the university, I just went into one building which had staff inside as most offices were closed for weekend.
I told a lady staff about my story. I think she is very sorry about my situation so she tried to find another lady staff (say B) to help me. Since all staff in the office are not very good in English, so B called her daughter by her mobile …. Try to imagine the situation…. B told her daughter about my problem and explained to her what I should do in thai… then her daughter talked to me in phone and converted what her mother said to English to me…. I am really impressed by their kindly help. No money is needed in the whole process… Then finally, lady B took me to information center and asked another lady staff C. Initially, C could not help me to check anything because student information is a kind of personal confidential. Then I told my story again and then lady C gave me her mobile phone. She said that she could tell me an answer on Monday morning. Buddies, I really appreciated what they have done to me. Very helpful.
Then I left the university and walked to her home. Yes, I walked to her home because I didn’t know her address in thai but I know how to go. I walked about an hour and then took a motor bike to her home. Nobody at home! I asked the guard at the building entrance and showed him her photo. But unfortunately, the guy cannot speak English! Then I was waiting until a young woman appeared. Then I asked the woman for translating my question in thai to the guard. Finally, the guard told me that he saw her last night! That means she is in Bangkok and has not moved out! Then I went to nearby hotel, took a shower and planned to go her home again at the night time. To be frank, I was very excited…
After shower, I went to have dinner in a plaza. Suddenly, my mobile rang but I could not see the number. So I gave up to pick the call because roaming is expensive. But my mobile rang several times … Then I decided to pick up the call because perhaps it was a urgent call. Buddies, I think all of you knows who was calling me …. Yes, my girl friend! I asked her where she was and she said that she was in Bangkok. I said that I was also in Bangkok. She was surprised! I requested to meet her immediately. Then we meet at the hotel one and half hr later.
She looked darker.
I asked her what was happening. She explained to me that she just came back from Phang Nga for three days. She went home per her parents’ request. Her parents wanted her to get married to a man. A man she never meets before…. She could not accept it. Although she rejected the blind marriage, but she also thought that she could not keep the relationship with me because she is in bkk and I am in HK…. She wanted me to forget her …. So she left me….

To be contined ....

[iGotNoTime]

In America that is called stalking, it is illegal and you would face time in prison for it. We discussed previously on this forum how sad it is that Thailand does not have any means to enforce a similar law.

She wanted me to forget her …. So she left me….

To be contined ....

What is left to continue? She left you, and has nicely asked that you forget the relationship, how is there more?

[nok_lam]

To be continued ..
because I am very sick today... I think I got cold ... no energy to write more .... sorry, brothers.

[harikeo]

If I were you I would put this down to experience and move on. If the girl phones you all well and good but don't go out of your way to track her down anymore.

Good luck in your search for a partner though

[Jerome]

I may be wrong but the way I read the last part of his story was something like "and that's the reason why she left me (the first time)." I thought it meant that they were still talking and we would get the rest of the conversation in the next installment.

[paul_au]

Her parents wanted her to get married to a man. A man she never meets before….

So what, most parents some time in there life, know some one who they want to marry there daughter.
But you were already in a relationship, this is no excuse for her to break it off with you if she really liked you.
Secondly after all the lies she has said so far, I imagine this to just be anther lie to save face as they say.
I would bet she never left Bangkok and this marriage off offer is a lie of happened years ago, before you knew her.
I'm imagine this is just a flimsy excuse, and I'm 99% shore she is lying

but she also thought that she could not keep the relationship with me because she is in bkk and I am in HK…. She wanted me to forget her …. So she left me….

You was seeing her once a month, but she did not even wait long enough in the relationship, to see if you was going to move to Bangkok or not. So this is another obvious flimsy excuse, specially when you intended moving there any way.


Why do many Thai woman enjoy short term flings with foreigners, It's because they can use them for a few free meals and some fee entertainment for a few weeks, and they know 95% of the time, because of the distance the man will not be back, so she is never obligated to reciprocate the good will, like she would have to with a local man.

You was used, but you cannot see she is manipulative, she has been playing a game from the very beginning of the relationship.
Don't worry she may continue to play the game again for a few weeks while your in Bangkok for a bit of free entertainment, but ultimately she is just using you, and she will be lying threw her teeth with every thing she says.
Ultimately the relationship will end, because she has absolutely no respect for you, and even worse you have no respect for your self, by chasing some one, that most Thai men would reject as a Carleton.
I will give you the facts below :
Quite obviously she does not want you for your self, just what she can exploit from you or has found a better love or multiple love prospects to exploit, what ever she is just a user, do you really want to lower your dignity to go with that, are you that desperate.

My advice find some one new, that loves you, that does not have to make up lies, to save face, because what ever you do this girl will leave again and again till you wake up from your deluded dream, that there was any love there in the first place.

[iGotNoTime]

Why do many Thai woman enjoy short term flings with foreigners, It's because they can use them for a few free meals and some fee entertainment for a few weeks....

Paul please do not do this. Please when you refer to the women of Thailand, be more specific for the sake of those who do know. You are welcome to speak like this (about this type of relationship), but please be clear in who you are talking about. You would not be happy if I had only relationships with women in Kings Cross, St Kilda or The Valley within Australia. In the same manner the women of Thailand do not care much for being associated with the women of Patpong, Nana Plaza, Soi Cowboy, Pattaya or Phuket bars.

There is so much more to Thailand outside of these "districts" but most farang don't seem to know that. There is a stereotype that comes with it and they don't seem to mind that either. I have met some very nice people who frequent Thailand, but my opinion quickly changes when they tell me that they have never travelled outside of these areas.

I like the advice on finding someone new. I don't understand why when a woman says the relationship is over, so many men just can not accept this.

[paul_au]

but please be clear in who you are talking about.

Yes your right, not all Thai woman are like this, and the vast majority are great, but it is a specific group of Thai Go Getters you got to look out for. and just because you meet a girl in Pattaya does not necessarily make her a Go Getter either, and I find university students are some of the worst go getters around.
I live about 5 kilometers from Kings Cross, it is a totally different form of Red light district in comparison to Red light districts in Thailand which are concentrated in areas like Pattaya. Sydney has hundreds of Red Light district, they are in every suburb that has a commercial area or shopping center, so Kings Cross, is just used for US sailors on tourer, as it is next to the Navy Base. 99% of Girls in Kings Cross just work for a living in normal jobs, like shop assistant etc, there boyfriends are usually working class. The Go getters of Sydney are in the ritzy areas or in the CBD of Sydney, just look out for them, these woman are where the Ferraris, Aston Martins and Bentleys pull up in Double Bay Sydney there looking for rich husbands.

[nok_lam]

hi, buddies.
Long time no see...
I just come back from hospital... yes, hospital.
I am being attacked by a virus (but don't worry, not H5N1) and stayed in a hospital for a week. I need to take rest. But just for your information, she calls me every morning (before she goes back to office) and night (before I sleep). To be honest, I don't feel that the girl is the one that Paul is talking so far... because she never accepts my money and need me to take her to any lux restaurant when I was in bkk. Normally, I took boat and bus when we went out. Meals in some general shopping plaza just the one that using 100Bht can make us full...
I hope I can recover soon.